36 days ago I started another leg of my long, strange trip~Whole 30. That was my most recent restart~I really, really started years ago when I began to wake up and notice patterns in my life. Some patterns were productive and forward moving, others, not so much. I’m currently able to (mostly) live, work and play in a state of gratitude. I’m healthy and safe and so are my kids. I have a home, plenty to eat, a car and a gorgeous cat named Elleanor.
I’m simultaneously all over the place and overwhelmed with inner peace.
Conflicted at times. But happy for the most part.
Years ago I started waking up, becoming more self-aware. Spiritual Awakening or Nervous Breakdown? Maybe a combo? I prefer Spiritual Awakening but I can see both sides of the coin. Within a 4 year period I survived a divorce; became a certified Life Coach, yoga teacher, and Reiki Master. I did TONS of internal work; tried lots of alternative healing modalities; gained and lost 25 lbs twice; started my business; quit drinking; co-parented 2 awesome, thriving kids; learned how to not be codependent and become a better version of myself everyday. I have finally (after 4 years!!!!) figured out that this actually takes practice. Everyday practice. I feel like this is where so many of us fall short and quit before the miracle. I speak from experience. I remind myself to practice every day. And even then, every once in a while, I just won’t do it, for whatever reasons I come up with for that day. But the very moment I begin again and treat myself the way I coach a client to treat themselves is the moment things start to open up for me and life becomes happy, joyous and free.
How do I get there? Where do I sign up? Two words, my friend: SELF CARE. Self-care is where it’s at!!!!!! And by self care I don’t mean anything that has to cost money, (though if you happen to have the means to afford it, more power to ya!) A daily at home practice, 20-30 minutes a day, everyday, has huge cumulative benefits over time. We live in our bodies 24/7/365. This works from the inside out and here’s your starting point:
Start with however many minutes you can do each: you may love to write and spend more time on that than meditating; you may be a meditating badass and cringe at the thought of pen to paper; you may rock the yoga mat or not be able to fold forward without bending your knees. Play with the order and figure out which best suits you. It doesn’t matter, you can’t do it wrong, and the mere fact that you are doing it means you are doing it right!!!!! Start somewhere and take the next step. And then the next step and the next… If these can be 20-30 consecutive minutes that would be ideal~though sometimes our days go off the rails, we tread water and just get done what we are able to do. Honor that, meet yourself where you are. The point is to make it doable so it becomes a habit. Research shows it can take as little as 21 days or as long as 3 months to break a habit and replace it with a new one. I noticed the more work I did on myself the faster I was able to integrate wellness on all levels while dropping self-destructive habits with relative ease.
Set yourself up for success. Commit to daily practice and hold yourself accountable. Start rebecoming and watch the magic happen.